![]() ![]() She segues into how vulnerability manifests itself in the workplace, and how important it is in developing inclusivity, equity and diversity. Brown summarizes their sentiment, “When you are grateful for what you have, I understand that you understand the magnitude of what I’ve lost.” She spoke with people who lived through harrowing experiences like mass shootings, losing children, hoping to understand how people could show up in a compassionate way, and a very common response was simply gratitude for your life, family and friends. “Joy becomes foreboding.” Her research found that the one variable everyone who can lean into joy and not dress rehearse tragedy shares is gratitude. “In the midst of joy, we dress rehearse trauma,” Dr. Brown describes joy as the most vulnerable emotion, because most people hedge when they begin to feel it. True belonging doesn’t require you to change who you are, it requires you to be who you are. “Speaking your truth, telling your story and never betraying yourself for other people. Belonging, is belonging to yourself first,” says Dr. ‘Here is what I should say/be, here is what I shouldn’t say, here is what I should avoid talking about, here’s what I should dress like/look like,’ that’s fitting in. “The opposite of belonging is fitting in. But that we cannot be vulnerable and not be ourselves- the enemy of belonging is trying to fit in. Brown explains that vulnerability is the birth of true belonging, “we are hard-wired for belonging,” wanting other people to love us and “see” us. And after reading the Roosevelt quote, Brown concluded, “If you are not in the arena, getting your a** kicked and rejected, I am not interested in your feedback about my work.” The only people Brown seeks feedback from are people who love her, but are honest with her." People who love you not in spite of your imperfection and vulnerability, but because of it."ĭr. She explains that we are hard-wired to care what others think, but we need to be intentional about who we accept feedback from. “Vulnerability is not about losing, it is about showing up when you can’t control the outcome,” says Dr. Brown, and she connected it to vulnerability. It crystalized what it meant to “be in the arena” to Dr. “There is my life before that quote, and my life after that quote,” says Dr. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood who strives valiantly who errs, who comes short again and again…who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly." It is not the critic who counts not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. She clicked on a link of a speech of his, and read the following quote, She watched it for seven hours, then googled the actors, what it cost to go to England, and eventually she looks up who was president of the US during Downton Abbey, and it was Theodore Roosevelt. She naturally waited for her husband to leave then began to read them, leading her to spiral, “I needed peanut butter and Downton Abbey,” Dr. ![]() Brown tells a story about how after her first TED Talk was posted and she realized it was becoming a hit, her husband warned her not to read the comments. ![]() Brown’s talk on how we can answer the call to courage in our own lives:īe Intentional About Who You Accept Feedback Fromĭr. Brown’s research, choosing courage and vulnerability opens us up to love, joy and belonging, and brings us closer to what she calls, “whole-hearted living.” It changes the kind of partner, parent and professional we are when we live brave and authentic lives. ![]()
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